Expressing Emotions Beneficial
Here is something I invite you to give serious consideration to….. Emotions need to be acknowledged, expressed…AN EMOTION IS NOT DANGEROUS UNTIL IT IS DISOWNED, SUPPRESSED OR IGNORED. How so? It doesn’t go away, it just goes somewhere else. Either you project it onto others and/or compress it into your own body. This in turn generates more feelings—shame, humiliation, embarrassment, and failure, that you push down, ignore or disown, creating a cycle that results in an endless barrage of twisted thoughts and false rationale assuring you that you are justified in giving up, so go ahead eat that “one” piece of cake more or create more of the chaos around you that keeps you from addressing your pain.
If you think about it, you can probably pinpoint when in your life you learned it wasn’t safe to express your emotions and at times it was even dangerous, maybe when you were very young.
Were you told things like “Stop crying or I’ll really give you something to cry about?” “Suck it up, it’s not that bad” — was your exuberance for life and fun often shot down with a strong look of disapproval or punishment?
Can you see how these emotionally charged messages would teach you to suppress, disown, and dishonor your feelings?
Could it be that your emotions were ignored, minimized, or even laughed at by parents, teachers or others? Whenever or whatever the cause at some point in your life you learned to dishonor, disown and suppress so as not to really feel your own feelings.
There is no denying emotions are powerful forms of energy. If you are to scared or scarred to feel a feeling, its energy still has to go somewhere. Do not be misled, what you don’t express you suppress, and it eventually comes out anyway. Sometimes in the form of a bulge here then there, an outburst at someone, health issues, depression or all of these and more.
Where does your disowned emotional energy go?
Are you aware of how that has affected you to this day? Some examples of how disowned emotional energy might show up in your life; Overeating, overweight, in debt up to your eyeballs, living in constant chaos, poor health…. Pause and reflect, what are some of the results you personally are experiencing today because of this disconnection from your feelings?
It is so easy to see how dis-empowering suppressed emotions can be, isn’t it? Thus the only emotions/feelings you really need to fear are those you disown, suppress or try to ignore.
What would happen if you actually did acknowledge your feelings, honor them, process them, bear witness to them, surrender them, and feel how empowered you become? This was the very discussion I was having with my Dr. this morning. WOW, you would no longer have this frightening energy ruling your thoughts and actions. You would now have the freedom to rule your emotions instead of them ruling you.
Are you ready to rule your own emotions by acknowledging them, honoring them, processing them and letting them go? Yes? Then you my dear are strongly on your way to being self-empowered!!
New Self-Empowerment Group coaching sessions are starting in May http://raicoaching.com/events-3/ I invite you to join us.