Expressing Emotions Beneficial

Here is something I invite you to give serious consideration to….. Emotions need to be acknowledged, expressed…AN EMOTION IS NOT DANGEROUS UNTIL IT IS DISOWNED, SUPPRESSED OR IGNORED.  How so? It doesn’t go away, it just goes somewhere else. Either you project it onto others and/or compress it into your own body. This in turn generates more feelings—shame, humiliation, embarrassment, and failure, that you push down, ignore or disown, creating a cycle that results in an endless barrage of twisted thoughts and false rationale assuring you that you are justified in giving up, so go ahead eat that “one” piece of cake more or create more of the chaos around you that keeps you from addressing your pain.

If you think about it, you can probably pinpoint when in your life you learned it wasn’t safe to express your emotions and at times it was even dangerous, maybe when you were very young.

Were you told things like “Stop crying or I’ll really give you something to cry about?” “Suck it up, it’s not that bad” — was your exuberance for life and fun often shot down with a strong look of disapproval or punishment?

Can you see how these emotionally charged messages would teach you to suppress, disown, and dishonor your feelings?

Could it be that your emotions were ignored, minimized, or even laughed at by parents, teachers or others? Whenever or whatever the cause at some point in your life you learned to dishonor, disown and suppress so as not to really feel your own feelings.

There is no denying emotions are powerful forms of energy. If you are to scared or scarred to feel a feeling, its energy still has to go somewhere. Do not be misled, what you don’t express you suppress, and it eventually comes out anyway. Sometimes in the form of a bulge here then there, an outburst at someone, health issues, depression or all of these and more.

Where does your disowned emotional energy go?

Are you aware of how that has affected you to this day? Some examples of how disowned emotional energy might show up in your life; Overeating, overweight, in debt up to your eyeballs, living in constant chaos, poor health…. Pause and reflect, what are some of the results you personally are experiencing today because of this disconnection from your feelings?

It is so easy to see how dis-empowering suppressed emotions can be, isn’t it? Thus the only emotions/feelings you really need to fear are those you disown, suppress or try to ignore.

What would happen if you actually did acknowledge your feelings, honor them, process them, bear witness to them, surrender them, and feel how empowered you become? This was the very discussion I was having with my Dr. this morning.  WOW, you would no longer have this frightening energy ruling your thoughts and actions. You would now have the freedom to rule your emotions instead of them ruling you.

Are you ready to rule your own emotions by acknowledging them, honoring them, processing them and letting them go? Yes? Then you my dear are strongly on your way to being self-empowered!!

New Self-Empowerment Group coaching sessions are starting in May http://raicoaching.com/events-3/  I invite you to join us.

3/16/12

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Water – Essential to Life

I cannot stress this enough, your body needs water! Each day, on average, you lose some two quarts of water that is eliminated through the skin, lungs, intestines, and kidneys. Just by exhaling you lose about one pint of liquid a day. How much more so with sweat from exercise or exertion?

Replacing this water is essential to prevent being dehydrated.  Waiting  until you’re thirsty to drink is too late,  you are already dehydrated. And it is not just your mouth that feels the effects of a lack of water!

Inadequate water consumption wreaks havoc on your whole system, especially during exercise/activity. You need water to carry nutrients to your cells, remove toxins, lubricate joints and your colon, to regulate metabolism and body temperature among other important functions.

Dehydration can also cause mental confusion. Your brain, which is  mostly water, is extremely sensitive to any dehydration or depletion of water content.

Those of you who are prone to water retention may think the solution is to reduce your water intake. Quite the contrary, when the body experiences a water deficit, it actually works hard to hold on to every available drop, storing it in such places as the feet, the hands, and the legs. Give your body what it needs—enough water. And remember, the more salt you eat, the more water you will retain to dilute it.

Water is essential for a healthy body and you cannot live without it. A man can live about a month without food, but, he will die in about a week without water.

Since the human body is composed of 80% water, do you think it is important to keep it that way? Was this just some fluke, a random act of evolution or could it be a purposeful act of creation? When is the last time you had a full glass of water?

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Crash or Rise Above It!

                     How does simple, yet creative become so out of control?

When you are working outside in 97 degree weather, with warm turkey and dull knives!

This is what happened the weekend of the BBQ cook-off competition, another couple, my husband and myself compete in.

This year’s “mystery meat” for the Iron Chef Competition was a whole 11 Lb. frozen turkey. After much tossing back and forth of ideas, the decision is made turkey kiev, kind of like chicken kiev except I will use pie dough instead of bread crumbs, and it will be “baked” in a smoker.  Relatively simple, I see it so clearly, cut off 8 thin slices of the turkey breast, (assuring 1 for each of the judges) pound flat and thin, wrap around a frozen pat of tarragon butter, roll up in pie dough toss in smoker for 30 – 40 minutes, Voila, this is going to be great! I get to work knowing this is even better than last year’s entry that we took 5^th place with.

What happens when the vision you have created in your mind, starts falling apart right in front of your eyes? That moment that you know with all your being this is just not going to work? Has this ever happened to you? Can you relate to that feeling of crashing hopes and so wanting to throw your hands up, walk away and cry!.

What do you do when there are 6 judges and you manage to carve off 2 barely there cutlets a few strips and lots of chunks of breast meat? You suck up your tears of frustration, rise above it and get creative!

As I look through stinging tears at the time on the clock, the warm turkey strips and chunks, melting tarragon butter and piecrust that is soft and stretchy, creativity strikes, turkey kiev bundles, presented on a bed of white rice mixed with sundried tomatoes, chopped fresh parsley and marinated artichoke hearts. I share the vision with the group, we are pumped and excited. Yes! We have a winner now! Gary cut the dough the best he could, I put together 12 bundles, gave them a pretty little twist at the top, handed off to Maralyn to put in the pan and off to the smoker. Big sigh, high fives all around and back to work, the clock keeps on ticking. Pressure! Rice is cooked, ingredients chopped, mixed in, 15 minutes to put it all together and over to the judges tent. We check the turkey bundles and reality strikes. They are not going to be done in time for entry, they need another 5 minutes!!! The smoker never got hot enough. Now what? No time for tears we have 10 minutes to get something together and over to the judges. Once again rise above it, move on and get the job done.

Rick to the rescue. When he saw what was happening with the turkey cutlet carving he went to work on plan B, 6 bacon wrapped turkey meatloaves grilled to perfection! We presented them on my rice and came in 12^th out of 67 entries. Not bad.  As for the turkey bundles, they were delicious! Definitely a winner! We all enjoyed eating them. I came home with a winner new recipe, appreciating the value of teamwork and once again understood the importance of being able to “Rise Above IT”!

I invite you to consider, when faced with the feeling of crashing hopes and so wanting to throw your hands up, walk away and cry, to Rise Above It. Who knows what you will discover about yourself and/or others.

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Mindset Matters

Your mindset and choice can impact your health and deeply influence your healing.

Every journey starts with a thought, then depending what we feed that thought, we develop a mindset towards that particular journey before we even start.

Close your eyes right now and picture what you will look like at the age of 90.  How do you look? Is that how you want to look at 90? 

There is a certain mindset or belief that kicks in, that has been formed by preconceived ideas and experiences that will ultimately determine the outcome. Your mindset is so important on this journey of your health– yourself. 

What are you thinking right now? 

Stop and listen.

Do you have healthy happy thoughts?

In America; vitality at any age is still viewed as icing on the cake. This is so different from Eastern cultures where vitality is the focus.

You’ve been taught that you are designed to disintegrate with age, be bent over carrying the weight of the world on your back, dull of eyes and mind, declining into chronic degenerative disease.

You do have a choice. You can choose to change that program.  If your goal is to be a healthy vibrant 90 year young, man or woman, you need to plant those seeds NOW.

For a journey to have a happy ending there must be a pleasant mindset along the way.

Your mind is fertile  ground ready to grow whatever is planted there.  …For whatever a man is sowing. This he will also reap. Gal. 6:7

Think healthy happy thoughts!

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What is your health- Yourself?

It is you taking care of you, being a willing and active participant in your own health-care.

The human body is designed to heal itself and knows how to do that. The more you learn the easier it is to take care of your body. Please know you are never too young or too old to take charge of your health. It IS your responsibility to understand your medications and your disease.

Understandably there are many questions, concerns, ideas and fears regarding your health and healthcare. Statistics of one kind or another are coming at you from all directions. There are advertisements everywhere working to convince you that all your problems will be solved by taking this pill or that pill.

While in that same sweet convincing voice saying.…”Oh and you might develop sausage finger, bulging eyeball, cauliflower ear and sudden death may occur”. “Should any or all of these symptoms occur, just call your Doctor.”

Yes, this country may have all the latest and greatest in technology and medication, but does that give you permission to surrender your health – yourself, without question, thought, choice or involvement on your part?

Making the decision to look after your health—yourself is the ultimate in healthcare.

Your body is always working hard to keep you healthy. How much easier will that job be if you feed it healthy food, and exercise?

I do need to be very clear that the information or suggestions presented here is  for supporting your quest for better health awareness, knowledge and involvement in any decision you need to make regarding your healthcare. It is not intended to diagnose treat or cure any condition. It is not intended to substitute for the advice, treatment or diagnosis of a qualified licensed professional

This is not a hidden way to encourage drastic, radical approaches to your health –yourself. We will embark upon this journey together, one thought, one bite, one step, and one action at a time toward a better stronger healthier you. As with any journey there will be discovery, challenge and adventure.

Sound exciting? Then let’s get started.

Ask yourself, what is one small change that I can make today? May I suggest 1 more glass of water, or 1 more piece of fresh fruit or a small salad? Are you willing to do that? How will I know you have done it?

Courage, Determination, Perseverence

Marion

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